Totally resonates with me. Unfortunately you even see this in the healthcare field where lives are on the line. Pretty scary. However, for the most part there are many good people doing a good job, with our share of free loaders.
I found a typo at “experience wealth and fame to see tat it doesn’t solve all your”
“Palace of Versaille, the ultra wealth French aristocracy” - wealth should be wealthy
Here, “But they had better parties at the palace, plus more drugs, more sex, and booze.” It might not be accurate. Could I suggest, “Versailles had better parties at the palace with higher quality sex, drugs, alcohol, and the ability to leave sometime the next day.”
I think changing “It is ultimately a breach of decorum and social norms to point out the emperor has no clothes… or that your boss has raging ADHD or is a pathological liar.” might read better as, “It is ultimately a breach of decorum and social norms to point out that the emperor has no clothes, your boss has raging ADHD, or the CEO is a pathological liar.”
This isn’t an edit, I just like to thank you for introducing me to the idea of Tippies and neurospicy. These are terms I’ve not encountered before but I definitely relate to especially in the context of working with a narcissist.
The paragraph -
“In China, they say “A crane stands out among chickens.” A helpful YouTube commenter taught me that. According to ChatGPT, 鹤立鸡群 translates directly to “A crane standing among chickens.””
Might flow better as -
“A helpful YouTube commenter taught me that, in China, they warn of “鹤立鸡群,” which translates directly to “A crane standing among chickens.”
I’m enjoying the read so far, David. Great work as always!
I'm over 80 now. I was never a good corporate employee. I didn't really know why either. But looking back your "scary smart" person nailed it. David, this is BY FAR the best statement I've ever seen on the subject of Institutionalized Incompetence. Thank you for this insightful piece.
I've recently found myself working with a narcissist. I was warned about this person before a meeting with them, but I usually give folks the benefit of the doubt at first. I thought we had a great conversation and I even knew some things they had not known (this is a person that had written a book on the topic in question and is a distinguished engineer). Sure enough that person proceeded to go behind my back and stab me in it. Perhaps they saw me as a threat or wanted to establish control over my team. I'll spare the details, but fortunately our leadership is aware of this person's disposition (so it's beyond me why this person is still at the company). The best advice I've heard here is that interacting with a narcissist is "a rigged carnival game so we don't play" and "silence can never be misquoted". Since this incident I've avoided all interaction with this individual as much as possible and when it's unavoidable I say as little as possible and try to provide responses that are as neutral as possible. So far this strategy has worked quite well.
Narcissist are terrible to deal with, work beside, or even just to be around them is a strain. Along with their psychopathic and beguiling ways, anyone would perceive them as detrimental. Narcissism is explored in Dark Psychology and I believe you’re handling it the best way possible. As the laws of power would say, someone else’s ignorance and foolish ways shouldn’t be your burden. Now that you’ve discovered them, keep a close eye on their moves and give them no access to you’re emotions. If you continue improving and keep your wits about you they’ll have no choice but to respect it.
Totally resonates with me. Unfortunately you even see this in the healthcare field where lives are on the line. Pretty scary. However, for the most part there are many good people doing a good job, with our share of free loaders.
I found a typo at “experience wealth and fame to see tat it doesn’t solve all your”
“Palace of Versaille, the ultra wealth French aristocracy” - wealth should be wealthy
Here, “But they had better parties at the palace, plus more drugs, more sex, and booze.” It might not be accurate. Could I suggest, “Versailles had better parties at the palace with higher quality sex, drugs, alcohol, and the ability to leave sometime the next day.”
I think changing “It is ultimately a breach of decorum and social norms to point out the emperor has no clothes… or that your boss has raging ADHD or is a pathological liar.” might read better as, “It is ultimately a breach of decorum and social norms to point out that the emperor has no clothes, your boss has raging ADHD, or the CEO is a pathological liar.”
This isn’t an edit, I just like to thank you for introducing me to the idea of Tippies and neurospicy. These are terms I’ve not encountered before but I definitely relate to especially in the context of working with a narcissist.
The paragraph -
“In China, they say “A crane stands out among chickens.” A helpful YouTube commenter taught me that. According to ChatGPT, 鹤立鸡群 translates directly to “A crane standing among chickens.””
Might flow better as -
“A helpful YouTube commenter taught me that, in China, they warn of “鹤立鸡群,” which translates directly to “A crane standing among chickens.”
I’m enjoying the read so far, David. Great work as always!
I'm over 80 now. I was never a good corporate employee. I didn't really know why either. But looking back your "scary smart" person nailed it. David, this is BY FAR the best statement I've ever seen on the subject of Institutionalized Incompetence. Thank you for this insightful piece.
I've recently found myself working with a narcissist. I was warned about this person before a meeting with them, but I usually give folks the benefit of the doubt at first. I thought we had a great conversation and I even knew some things they had not known (this is a person that had written a book on the topic in question and is a distinguished engineer). Sure enough that person proceeded to go behind my back and stab me in it. Perhaps they saw me as a threat or wanted to establish control over my team. I'll spare the details, but fortunately our leadership is aware of this person's disposition (so it's beyond me why this person is still at the company). The best advice I've heard here is that interacting with a narcissist is "a rigged carnival game so we don't play" and "silence can never be misquoted". Since this incident I've avoided all interaction with this individual as much as possible and when it's unavoidable I say as little as possible and try to provide responses that are as neutral as possible. So far this strategy has worked quite well.
Narcissist are terrible to deal with, work beside, or even just to be around them is a strain. Along with their psychopathic and beguiling ways, anyone would perceive them as detrimental. Narcissism is explored in Dark Psychology and I believe you’re handling it the best way possible. As the laws of power would say, someone else’s ignorance and foolish ways shouldn’t be your burden. Now that you’ve discovered them, keep a close eye on their moves and give them no access to you’re emotions. If you continue improving and keep your wits about you they’ll have no choice but to respect it.
That's called "gray rocking" - be a boring gray rock and the narcissist will get bored and wander off lol