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Michael R. Lavelle's avatar

I'm over 80 now. I was never a good corporate employee. I didn't really know why either. But looking back your "scary smart" person nailed it. David, this is BY FAR the best statement I've ever seen on the subject of Institutionalized Incompetence. Thank you for this insightful piece.

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I've recently found myself working with a narcissist. I was warned about this person before a meeting with them, but I usually give folks the benefit of the doubt at first. I thought we had a great conversation and I even knew some things they had not known (this is a person that had written a book on the topic in question and is a distinguished engineer). Sure enough that person proceeded to go behind my back and stab me in it. Perhaps they saw me as a threat or wanted to establish control over my team. I'll spare the details, but fortunately our leadership is aware of this person's disposition (so it's beyond me why this person is still at the company). The best advice I've heard here is that interacting with a narcissist is "a rigged carnival game so we don't play" and "silence can never be misquoted". Since this incident I've avoided all interaction with this individual as much as possible and when it's unavoidable I say as little as possible and try to provide responses that are as neutral as possible. So far this strategy has worked quite well.

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