I understand what you are saying, but what I hear is manipulation, not control. The two become distinct if you consider the Dichotomy of Control. No one can control another. Each person makes their own decisions that require accountability. You can make a decision to try to manipulate others with a behavior, but each person has the responsibility to act on that manipulation based on their virtues and desires. As long as people think they are a victim or that they have control over everyone else, we will always have those willing to take advantage of the situation.
Thanks for sharing this, David. Just got Storr’s book, as this must have been the third time you mentioned it.
Quick question: Could you elaborate a bit on how you are working with Claude in regards to such a concept as theory of mind?
I fired it up, asked it about the subject and then had it give me a questionnaire to determine my current TOC. I might refine that a bit once I read the book.
While a lot of boomers did have traditional "spare the rod, spoil the child" upbringing, don't forget that that was also the era of Dr. Spock. It may be that the boomers who throw fits were raised by parents who believed in his writings. The "discipline, hierarchy, authority" and corporal punishment elements you cited for boomer upbringing seem unlikely to give one the ToC that throwing fits gets one what one wants.
I recognized at least two people from my circle in the text. Quite interesting and enlightening. Maybe I'll pursue the topic further.
I found your video a while ago and included it in a newsletter of my own. I like that you expanded upon it a bit here.
I understand what you are saying, but what I hear is manipulation, not control. The two become distinct if you consider the Dichotomy of Control. No one can control another. Each person makes their own decisions that require accountability. You can make a decision to try to manipulate others with a behavior, but each person has the responsibility to act on that manipulation based on their virtues and desires. As long as people think they are a victim or that they have control over everyone else, we will always have those willing to take advantage of the situation.
Yes, some people focus on manipulation in their theory of control.
Insightful article! Speaking of gratitude, and as a boomer myself, I’m mighty grateful to Not be like anyone in that video!
Thanks for sharing this, David. Just got Storr’s book, as this must have been the third time you mentioned it.
Quick question: Could you elaborate a bit on how you are working with Claude in regards to such a concept as theory of mind?
I fired it up, asked it about the subject and then had it give me a questionnaire to determine my current TOC. I might refine that a bit once I read the book.
While a lot of boomers did have traditional "spare the rod, spoil the child" upbringing, don't forget that that was also the era of Dr. Spock. It may be that the boomers who throw fits were raised by parents who believed in his writings. The "discipline, hierarchy, authority" and corporal punishment elements you cited for boomer upbringing seem unlikely to give one the ToC that throwing fits gets one what one wants.